The other day, I gave someone a compliment. She quickly brushed that aside. Was she being humble? Was she distrusting me – thinking I want something in return? Was she feeling unworthy of my compliment?
These are a few of the questions I’m asking myself.
When someone gives me a compliment, I have a choice. Either accept that gift. Or reject that gift. There are not any other choices.
Once I decide whether to accept or reject, then I can consider how to accept or reject that gift.
The mannerism, the general attitude, the demeanor all make a difference in how the gift is handled – whether accepted or rejected.
So – what makes it so hard to accept a compliment?
Recently I received a compliment from someone I’ve known for a few years. This individual and I were chatting about my current project, the Encouragement Matters telesummit.
Out of the blue, I heard this: “Denny, whenever I have a conversation with you, no matter how short it might be, I always feel better. Thanks.”
WOW – I didn’t know I had that kind of impact. What a gift.
I opened my heart a little. The compliment landed. Right where it was supposed to. That place I seldom talk about… and then only in a whisper.
“Thanks.” Not many words were needed. I relaxed, the churning in my stomach stopped, and I felt heard. Like someone sees who I really am. From that place, my ego dropped and I humbly and gratefully accepted that compliment.
Often, we never know what one or two words of encouragement might mean to someone. Even if they don’t appear to accept the compliment.
How do you handle giving and receiving compliments?
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Hi, Denny Stockdale here. I'm known as a positive change strategist and an Encourager.